Whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert, doing things by yourself every now and then can be beneficial to your health. Spending time alone can allow for self reflection, deep thinking, and even relaxation. Personally, I absolutely LOVE alone time. Although I am a complete extrovert, I look forward to some alone time every once in a while in order to recharge, self reflect, and even leave behind the need for validation from others. Simply put, alone time is a wonderful thing.
The Benefits of Doing Things Alone…
According to Psychology Today, doing things by yourself aka solitude, is a wonderful thing for your body. In a world where you’re constantly connected to someone else, surrounded by people, or living in a crowded city, solitude is a must for ones health.
- Can enhance the quality of your relationships
- Provides time to think clearly and deeply
- Helps you reflect on problems and effectively work through them
- Gives you the opportunity to self reflect and find yourself
- Helps improve concentration and productivity
- Allows your brain to unwind
Solitude also helps you discover new hobbies and things you excel at.
Had I not sat down one day and done some research on photography (purely out of boredom and mainly because I yearned for solitude within the confines of my home office), I would have never discovered that I have a deep love for photography and that (not to toot my own horn) I’m actually pretty good at it!
However, I wasn’t always a lover of doing things alone. In fact, it terrified me. Eating out? Sure. But I’d grab it through the drive-thru and go back home. Hiking? Fishing? Going to the mall? ABSOLUTELY! But first, let me find someone wanting to join me… Not being comfortable doing things alone was limiting me from accomplishing things. Until one day, my best friend Chelsea told me all about how she had just gone out to eat sushi by herself, and had enjoyed every minute of it. She people watched, took as much time as she wanted, and enjoyed a quiet afternoon to herself. It sounded amazing. An afternoon to myself seemed like something I desperately needed during a time in my life where serving my country was my top priority and self love came in somewhere between second or third.
So I took a deep breath and ventured out alone, past the walls of my barracks room. I drove around town, dined in, went shopping, and even fished for a few hours. All. by. my. self.
So what exactly is there to do alone, other than staying inside all day?
Whatever you choose to do, keep in mind that it may feel awkward at first, but chances are that someone around you is probably doing the same thing. Everyone needs alone time. It’s just a matter of time before the person realizes it, tries it, and falls in love with it.
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” -Oscar Wilde